Happy Valentine’s Day, sweet readers! Today’s post is a little different, because we’re sharing Our Recipe for a Great Marriage! There are so many things, or AKA ingredients, that make for a great marriage. Now, we’re not saying we’re an authority on the subject. But, we have been married 35 years this June and we do have a great marriage. You may ask…Is it perfect? Absolutely – not. But, is it great? Definitely – yes!
Of course every successful marriage must have a healthy dose of LOVE. Yes, love makes the world go round. But, it also makes a marriage and a home a much better place.
Without love there is little compassion and sometimes very little hope. In my opinion, a marriage without love is like a cake without sugar. Trust me as a baker, it just doesn’t work.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 & 13 New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. Source
How true is this picture here. Some people chase after careers, hobbies and money more than the one they should be chasing. We believe a great marriage should always put God first, and your spouse should always be second. Consider them over yourself, and care for their needs more than your own. In doing so, you will create an environment that will grow a strong marriage, and in return you may find your spouse loving you the way you’ve always wanted them to. A marriage that flows in love is a beautiful thing and it is attainable, my friend.
Another very important ingredient in a healthy marriage is FAITH in God. That He will lead and guide you through the toughest of times. Like my Mom’s recent fight with brain cancer and her passing. It was a terrible time, and our family and friends were believing God for a complete miracle until the very end. Unfortunately my Mom’s miracle didn’t happen here on earth, but we take comfort in knowing she received her healing in heaven.
To say we were disappointed would be an understatement. And we don’t understand why difficult things happen in life, but we will go on in our faith. My Mom loved the Lord with all her heart, soul and mind, right up to her last breath. She was a pillar of faith in our family. We’d love for your to read my tribute to her, which highlights her life, her family that she loved so deeply, and her legacy of faith. My parents had a great marriage too. We got our inspiration and advice from them whenever we needed it.
I’ve been following a beautiful blog called House of Rose, for awhile now. They feature a lot of helpful posts on Marriage. They’re the cutest couple and you can find out more about them, and their mission to help others here.
Yes, love is a choice. And choosing to love your spouse daily, going through the ups and downs together, being a family, always putting them first, will have many great rewards.
This image says so much. We were married young, had our children young and John was able to retire at age 48. Now, retirement doesn’t just happen. John worked 31 years at an office job, I always worked part-time until the kids were in high school, then I worked full-time at an office job. We’re both careful with our money and John is very good at investing it.
I said all that to say, we’re glad that we kept our relationship strong throughout the years. Because when the kids leave, and you’ve just got each other, it’s good that you’re still in love. So, keep those flames burning and stay connected with each other. Go on a date, leave love notes to each other, whatever it takes to show you care – just do it. Be creative and most importantly have FUN together!
Think of the reasons you fell in love with your spouse and then ask God to help you see your spouse through those same eyes. Court each other over, and over again.
None of us are perfect and arguments will probably come. When this happens you may feel all alone. Call out to God. He will hear your cries, comfort you, and give you peace and wisdom. I know there were, and still are, times in our marriage where we had, or have, an argument and I felt, or feel, so alone. But, God always steps in to give comfort and peace.
Also, ask God to help you see the other persons side of the argument. And, when you have a fight, try to attack the problem – never the other person. This is a really good rule and very beneficial to both of you.
Another good tip, never discuss important issues at bedtime. People are tired and it’s not good to have an argument right before you go to sleep. Save important issues for the morning, lunch, or after dinner.
This Minion image is funny but true. Because respect is another key ingredient in a great marriage.
We highly recommend the book above called “Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. We read it years ago, and it’s filled with awesome advice for couples about love & respect.
If your marriage is having problems, please seek advice from a counselor, or other couples that have good marriages.
Ask questions like:
- What are you doing that makes your marriage so successful?
- Why are you so happy?
- Do you have any advice or tips for us?
- How do you make time for each other?
- Faith in God
- Team work
- Put all of these ingredients into a loving home. Use them often and whenever needed.
- Take long walks, rest, relax, talk and enjoy each other whenever possible.
- Sprinkle your marriage with healthy doses of prayer, kisses, hugs, winking, flirting, encouraging...etc., pretty much date each other for the rest of your life.
- Be creative and in time you will create the marriage of your dreams.
Hey, have you seen our 1st Cookbook Savory ~ Sweet ~ Repeat? It’s a delicious eCookbook full of tried & true family favorite recipes: 25 savory & 25 sweet. All of them are from this blog and some our family has enjoyed for 50 & even 60 years! There’s also a few newer family favorites as well. Our eCookbook downloads beautifully and is perfect for gift-giving!
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